Handling Addictions

How to cure addictions

Some testimonials

I have not been to AA for ages? I am free…
I have never smoked since that session over a year ago, but the really amazing thing is that I suffered no withdrawal symptoms, so I am sure you can help with my Gambling problem. It has cost me a fortune!
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It was so simple and yet I no longer have a problem with alcohol. I know you will believe me, but I can now have a drink if I want to…
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You are a hundred years ahead of your time…
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I had a couple of drinks after a game and my friends would not believe when me when I declined another. I am now in control of my drinking. It’s a wonderful feeling! I cannot thank you enough.

 

Addictions

Addictions take many forms, such as addiction to smoking tobacco, drugs or gambling, but the bottom line is that the person is addicted if they cannot control the habits; be they a physical activity such as gambling or the ingestion of some substance.

Our mission statement reads: To assist people to take control of their own lives and live their own dreams. Once a person achieves the wonderful state of being in control of their own life, addictions cease to exist.

No client who is free of an addiction to smoking ever resorts to the habit again, but an addiction to alcohol is another matter altogether.  Drinking alcohol is a very common social activity, but it is only when a person has no control over their intake that they are not in control of their own life.

As regards alcohol, the aim of a MEM session is to allow a person to have a drink if they wish it, not to make them a total abstainer, a teetotaller.  One golfing client rang me and said, “I had a couple of drinks after a game and my friends would not believe when me when I declined another. I am now in control of my drinking. It’s a wonderful feeling! I cannot thank you enough.”

What must be stressed is that a client must genuinely wish to eliminate an addiction. An example is a client who came to handle his smoking, but in talking to him it transpired that he enjoyed a smoke.
“Well, why do you want to stop smoking if you enjoy it?’
“Its my wife who wants me to stop, not me.”
To cut a long story short, I sent him on his way with a smile on his face because as I just wrote, the person concerned must personally and genuinely want to handle an addiction.

That is a salient point about MEM; no matter how powerful is the technique, it is impossible to change someone who does not want to change.

This is very important, especially as regards to an addiction to alcohol, for many people will not admit to others, never mind to themselves, that they cannot control their drinking.  Shame is an all too common element, which influenced the famous organisation, Alcohol Anonymous in its choice of a name.

Tragically, AA members are mistakenly convinced that alcoholism is a disease, but equally tragically they have to live by the credo, “I will not have a drink today!” The thought of never ever having another drink is too un-confrontable, hence the credo’s word ‘today’.  The founder of that organisation deserves the highest praise, for many an alcoholic has been able to lead a decent life. However, it highlights the difference to the Mace method approach as per the above testimonials.

© John Mace. August 2012

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